For parents of autistic or neurodivergent young adults, the years leading up to 22 can feel like a countdown. Why? Because in most U.S. school systems, 22 is the age when your child “ages out” of public education services. Suddenly, the structured support you’ve relied on for years—IEPs, specialized classrooms, therapies at school—will no longer be guaranteed.
So what does aging out really mean, and how can you prepare?
1. The End of School-Based Services
At 22, your child is no longer entitled to special education under IDEA (the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act). That means:
- IEP meetings stop.
- School therapists, counselors, and support staff are no longer available.
- Classroom accommodations and modifications disappear.
This can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t mean the journey ends—it just shifts.
2. Options After 22
Even though school-based support ends, other services can continue depending on your state and your child’s needs:
- Transition programs or vocational training through local agencies.
- Adult Medicaid or state disability services, which may cover therapy, respite care, or day programs.
- Community colleges or continuing education programs that offer accommodations for neurodivergent students.
The key is connecting with adult services before your child turns 22 so there’s no gap.
3. Employment and Independence
For many young adults, this is the time to explore work or independent living:
- Supported employment programs can help your child find a job and learn workplace skills.
- Vocational rehabilitation services often offer coaching, transportation support, and on-the-job guidance.
- Independent living programs provide training in budgeting, cooking, transportation, and daily routines.
4. Emotional Impact
Aging out isn’t just a logistical shift—it’s emotional for both parents and young adults. Many feel anxious, uncertain, or even scared. Preparing your child with self-advocacy skills, routines, and a clear plan can ease the transition.
5. Tips for a Smooth Transition
- Start planning early: Connect with adult services at least 1–2 years in advance.
- Document needs clearly: Keep a record of therapies, supports, and accommodations that work best.
- Build independence gradually: Encourage skills like cooking, managing money, and navigating public transportation.
- Advocate relentlessly: You know your child’s strengths and challenges—use that knowledge to secure the right adult supports.
Aging out at 22 can feel scary, but it’s also a new chapter. With planning, support, and advocacy, your young adult can continue to grow, learn, and thrive—just in a different setting.